Shonalika

[ivyfic]

Shonalika is a nonbinary youtuber who blogs with a very leftist perspective. The title of this video is deliberately clickbaity, but it gets into some parts of the discussion on gender that often get overlooked, especially when responding to openly transphobic comments, like those of JK Rowling.

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[pauraque]

Also, sometimes people are so devastated by the level of transphobia they experience upon transitioning that they regret it for that reason alone. And sometimes people think they're binary trans but then realize later that they're nonbinary and would have made different transition choices if they'd known that at the time. But as you say, nobody wants to talk about any of these things because it's so likely that they'll just be used to score points against us. This was even more the case when I was transitioning in the 90s, and there was so little sympathy or understanding for us that we had to present an extremely simplistic view of our situation in order to get what we needed socially, medically, and politically. It's gotten better since then, but there is still a lot that we usually just don't talk about when cis people are in the room, because it makes us too vulnerable.

Not to mention an even deeper problem: Even if people were transitioning and then detransitioning left and right (they're not, but let's say they were), who says this needs to be anyone else's business but theirs? All of these arguments depend on the underlying assumption that cis people are (and should remain) in charge of what is okay for trans people to do with our bodies.

Maybe some of the videos you've seen did go into that. But personally, that's where I started to get too wound up and decided not to write a comprehensive post about these issues after all. :P